Girlfriends 

​When I heard about National girlfriends day I was excited. I planned a day out with my the woman in my life, my fiancé. Then I saw the post about what it “officially” means. A day where female best friends celebrate each other. These were all posted by women. So, me being me, I looked up National boyfriend day, it exists. National fiancé day, it exists. National wife day, it exists. There’s even a national husbands day. 

I had to wonder what the big deal was about. Were these women so bitter about not having a male (or probably even a female) to spoil them that they’d try to rain on people’s parade? Why shouldn’t a guy be able to treat his lady on this day? Why should it be turned into a negative if he does? Just because you don’t have it doesn’t mean you get to ruin it for others. 

The more I looked, the more I saw that some people only do the things they do because they are lonely. Well, I’m sorry for that, but I’m going to show my woman that I love her whether this day was made for me to do so or not. 

Peace 

PS: We had an amazing day. 

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Haunted Every Day

How do you deal with depression? I’m not even talking about your own depression. How do you help someone you love out of this hole they find themselves in?

The truth is that all you can do is be there for them. They will only get better if they want to. There’s no rushing then out of it. No loving them out of it. At that point your own insecurities come into play. Why aren’t you good enough? Why can’t you help? You know it’s not about you, but it’s hard to not think that way.

If you’re in love, I mean head over heels in love, then the fear of losing them haunts you Every. Single. Day. You know how depression usually ends. You expect to wake up one day and get the worst news of your life.

You’ll know that there was never anything that you could do. You wouldn’t force them to do anything that they didn’t want to do, so how would you get them to get help if they didn’t want it? Is it your fault? Even though you know it isn’t, that thought is now the one that haunts you Every. Single. Day.